19 February 2012

Glimpses and Thankfuls 13 -19 Feb 2012

Monday 13 Feb 2012 
I have much to be thankful for. And to clear up something; I am a little embarrassed by the attention that I am receiving for these thankful posts. I started them back in November when many people were posting daily thankfuls. I found that it has become very important for me take time each morning to reflect on what I am thankful for - because some mornings I feel discouraged and think sad thoughts such as "What difference does it make?" and "Why bother?" and "Why me?". Forcing myself to recognize the Lord's blessings each morning helps me to focus on the positive and thus makes an enormous difference in my life. I appreciate those of you who are helping me be more positive by reading and commenting and supporting me in this lifeline. I just wanted you to know that I didn't start it thinking that anyone would really notice.... that has been an unexpected blessing. So, I am thankful this morning for a wonderful Sabbath. I am thankful to have attended Ward Conference in Windham. There are so many wonderful people in Windham that I love so much and it was fun to see them. I am thankful to visit with Joe and Dvorah at church and to also hear several people say nice things about them. I am thankful to have listened to an interesting interview with Dean Hughes on the way down, a talk by Brad Wilcox on the way home, for a great Ziti casserole (thank you Kari Lamonte), delicious popcorn (thank you young men), a great SS lesson by Linda Miele, an uplifting RS Pres meeting with Linda and Cheryl, a car that started (although it didn't want to first thing in the morning), a New England boiled dinner awaiting me when I got home (thanks Mike), two chapters in "Gadiantons" (thanks Kaleb and Caleb), scriptures with John, quiet time to read seminary resources, a fun skyping session with Sofie, Andrew, and Sarah, and a good night's sleep (I slept 7 1/2 hours without waking up!) Time to bring on the day!

Linda Smith You may not think so but you are such a help to not only yourself but so many other people that just start thinking of all we have to be thankful for. I look forward to you thankfuls everyday!!! Love, Linda 
Emma Call There are certain people on this earth who always "teach" by their love and example. Thank you for giving all of us such a gift. Love you! Emma

Tuesday 14 Feb 2012 
This is Valentine's Day and the process of trying to decide how to celebrate it with my sweetheart will probably be as much fun as the actual celebration. I am thankful this morning that Eliza is willing to drive Emily to school as our battery was dead and even after Mike jumped it, it wouldn't stay running because the alarm got tripped. So now, the long hit or miss process of trying to do the right things in the right order to unlock the alarm system. I am thankful to my husband for going out in the very cold air (8 degrees) to figure it out. I am also thankful for a full day of work yesterday and lots of laundry done. I am thankful that I was able to get the towels in off the line even though they had twisted around the clothesline in the wind. I had to climb up the hill in the snow and tug on all the towels until the clothespins broke and flew off all over the yard before the line would unwind and I could pull it in. But I did it! I am thankful for chop suey. I told Eliza that it is comfort food and make me feel better just to look at it. And it tasted so good. I am thankful that Kaleb helped me for an hour in the food storage room moving some cans to a new shelf. I am thankful that Linda will teach seminary for me while I am gone to Sofie's house for two weeks. I am looking forward to some delicious food and something to watch around lunchtime while the house is quiet. I hope that everyone feels that they are loved today. I know that I love you!

Wednesday 15 Feb 2012 
Good morning the day after Valentine's Day! I am thankful for the homemade card that John made me with a scratch-off message on the inside. I am thankful for the chocolate rose and cookies from Eliza and for the tacos for supper. I am thankful that John spent the better part of yesterday figuring out how to get the car started even though now we do not have any lights on the dashboard so that will be the project for today- as we really need to know how fast we are going and how much gas we have left. :) I think we are doing our Valentine celebration today where John brings home food and we watch something together - that is the way old people celebrate, at least these old people this year. I am thankful to have read aloud two very exciting chapters in "Gadiantons". We were all gripping our seats and at the end of the chapter Muleki has an obsidian knife imbedded in his ribs and we can't wait to see if he is OK. I am thankful for three excellent videos watched in seminary this morning; one about King David, one about Elijah and the widow at Zerephath, and one about Elisha and Naaman. They all brought tears to my eyes, one for exaltation lost, and two for tender portrayals of faith. I am off to work and the rest of this Wednesday. Have a good day!
 
Thursday 16 Feb 2012 
I am thankful for my internal alarm clock that goes off at 5am, although I do always set am alarm on week days. I am thankful that my diligent husband did work for hours again yesterday and got the lights working on the dashboard of the car. I am thankful for another chapter read aloud (sometimes the highlight of my day!) and for three more baby hats bound and a bi-yearly staff meeting for work that reminds me what an awesome job I have! I am thankful for three more videos to watch in seminary today. I am thankful that John stopped at Fare Share and got me herbal popcorn and carob covered malted milk balls. I haven't eaten them yet.....but I am looking forward to it. I am thankful that John picked up a basketball game next week and possibly something on Saturday. I am thankful for the tender mercies of the Lord and also am a little sad that I sometimes don't notice them until much later. For example, I don't really think that you can blame the lack of snow on me this year, but it was pretty amazing that I drove to Lewiston every weekday from Dec 22nd through Feb 9th and only had to cancel once because of ice. All of the other times the storm ended in time to go, or started right after I got home. That is definitely a blessing. I also locked the doors of the car each time I went and had no trouble with the door alarm being set off and only two times would the car not start when it was time to go. One time I cancelled and the other I prayed for it to start and it did. I am very thankful for that watchcare from a loving Heavenly Father. I am thankful to go to card making today.

I loved listening to the All-Staff meeting yesterday. I love to be reminded of what a great place WGU is. It is hard to see the big picture sometimes when you are so focused on one particular area of assessment. I am thankful for the day that I heard about WGU and was encouraged to apply for a job there.

Friday 17 Feb 2012 
Hooray! Friday! I am thankful for my friend Nancy who is so steady and faithful. She can always be counted on to do the right thing and whatever she says she will do. I am thankful for the three lovely cards that we made yesterday under her tutelage and for good conversation. I am thankful that Eliza was able to go with me. I am thankful for the piece of Yianni's meat lover's pizza that John brought back from the Advertiser office for me. It was so good and a nice unexpected treat! I am thankful for youtube and the wealth of videos that they have. I rarely go on because I am a little afraid of what I might see or hear but I do sometimes see something that a trusted friend has recommended or search for something specific. Yesterday I watched a video about Hershey's kisses- I was wondering how they were wrapped. So Kaleb and Dante and I watched a video about it. I am thankful for school vacation next week - I hope to use the little bit of extra time to catch up on some projects. I am thankful for good friends and family who love me and uplift and encourage me to be a better person. Do you ever want to stop the world for awhile so that you can get caught up? That is how I feel - life is moving so fast that I can't keep up - I am continually downsizing, so to speak. The trouble is - I don't want to keep letting go of the things that I like to do! It is frustrating!


Saturday 18 Feb 2012 
I am thankful.... for teenagers who are trying to make good choices, for 8 baby hats bound, for beautiful paper partially cut into pieces for cards, for thin crust pizza, for reading aloud, for a very pink sky, for clean and folded laundry, for a warm house, for my wonderful children, and for Jesus Christ.

Sunday 19 Feb 2012
 
I have always been thankful to live in Maine. I spent some time looking at a map of the coast of Maine this morning and realize that I love the ocean and have experienced so little of the beauty of the coast of Maine. Maybe that is something that I should try to do this summer. I am thankful for the Sabbath - a bright beacon in the sometimes murky world that I live in. It is a day to not only worship the Lord Jesus Christ, but a day to regroup- to look at where I am, where I want to be, and try to tweak the plan that will get me there. I am thankful for a quiet house, all five children and their parents are sleeping. I hope that you will remind me how much I love a quiet house when everyone moves out and I am complaining that the house is too quiet. It is so tricky to try to be thankful for the way things are today and not always be wishing for something else. How many times do we do that and then wish we had that circumstance back once it is gone? I am trying to take each day and be thankful for it and to enjoy it. If nothing else, it makes my day go better and gives me some good, sometimes funny, memories. I am so tired of the 'what ifs?' in my life. They can be so debilitating. I can't go back and change any of them, and dwelling on them too much only robs today of its charm and beauty. So I am all for a positive, productive, restful, inspiring Sabbath. How about you?
 
Virginia Arsenault All those things that happened to you in the past seems to have made you a really nice person. Forget the 'what ifs' and think of the what is. I watched the sun rise this morning and though how it just always seems to be more beautiful every time, and how the sky and earth are like an amazing moving painting created by the only artist. Thank you our God and creator for all you give us, now and every day!
Jacqueline Wittwer I miss the ocean and I don't know if you can ever get enough of the coast of Maine. And yes, the Sabbath is a true beacon.

Glimpses and Thankfuls 06 -12 Feb 2012

Monday 06 Feb 2012 
I am thankful for the very fun birthday celebration/family gathering yesterday. Joe and Dvorah and Danny came and Eliza and her family live here so we had 10 people. I am thankful to Eliza for working so hard to cook lunch for us all, to make the 'decorate your own cupcake' dessert and for making teabag cookies for Danny. They came out so cute!  I am thankful that we had so much fun with John's gift. I got him a Cotton Candy machine. A couple of weeks ago we were watching an episode of 'The Mentalist' where one of the main characters got a pony for her birthday. John said that he wanted a pony for his birthday. I said that what I was getting him was like a pony. (Every child wants a pony and what child wouldn't want a cotton candy machine?) That innocent remark set off a couple of weeks of intrigue as he tried to figure out what his present was going to be. He thought pny was 'like a pony' or sony was 'like a pony'. I told him I was going into the Dollar Tree to get accessories for his pony (hard candies to spin into cotton candy) - so he went in and walked around to try to figure out what I could have possibly meant. It was a lot of fun. Then I found out that the gift wasn't going to be delivered in time- on Saturday it was in Wisconsin- so that added to the fun. "my pony is in Wisconsin'. I had Joe and Dvorah bring their machine yesterday so that we could still have cotton candy. It was so much fun - all 10 of us gathered around and trying different flavors! Then we played a few rounds of 'Chicken Foot' and that was hilarious. I think any game would be hilarious with Danny and Joe there. And this game was easy enough to play that all the kids could play too. Then Dvorah and I got to talk some sewing talk. Then I finished reading 'Tennis Shoes Among the Nephites' to Kaleb and Caleb. John and I read scriptures and had prayers. Church was uplifting. I messaged with Sarah Governale early in the morning. It was a great day! I totally love my family and I am so thankful to Heavenly Father for his sweet tender mercy in allowing me to experience such joy!
 It was a great weekend. I worked 8 hours on Saturday for WGU and did little else. Yesterday was church and then our family birthday celebration. It was so much fun! We made cotton candy, played a game, ate cake and ice cream and laughed and laughed and laughed. I love my kids!

Tuesday 07 Feb 2012 
I am thankful for the Lord's intervention and direction in teaching my seminary lessons. This is the second time in the last week where I ended up saying something profound that was so focused on the needs of my girls and testifying of a truth that was not in my mind at all as I was preparing my lesson. I find it to be such a humbling experience, and yet so satisfying that the Lord could use me in that way. I guess I feel a little ashamed that maybe I am not preparing enough to have figured out that connection myself, but maybe I should just be thankful that I am flexible and close enough to the spirit to hear the inspiration and to go with it. I am getting out of the boat sometimes - it is great! Our car wouldn't start when I went out to go to my treatment and when John put the battery charger on it he said it probably couldn't be charged in time for me to make it. I prayed that it would somehow start as I so want these daily trips to Lewiston to be over. It started and even though it stalled about a dozen times before the battery was strong enough to keep going, I made it! I discovered that if I knew I was going to have to stop, I would shift into neutral and work the brake with the left foot and the accelerator with the right foot to keep the engine going. I was cutting it very close time-wise, so I was praying that there would be a parking place on the street to save me some time - and there was. I am so amazed that Heavenly Father cares enough about me to grant me these little blessings. And I am thankful for that and love him so much. I am thankful that I put the makings of a beef stew in the crockpot yesterday morning, that Eliza mopped the floor, that John and I read scriptures and had prayers, that I read a couple of chapters in "Gadiantons and the Silver Sword" to Kaleb and Caleb, that we played Chicken Foot for FHE and ate brownies, that I got a good night's sleep, and that I have a wonderful husband.

Melanie Barrett Crawford Tender mercies :)
Jackie Governale Exactly!


Wednesday 08 Feb 2012 
Today is Wednesday and I am thankful for the middle of the week. I am thankful that I went to the Windham youth activity last night and helped them with family history. I am thankful that Jean went with me and that we talked non-stop down and back. I am thankful for the Spirit that kept nudging me to call Joe yesterday afternoon to see if we needed to wear church dress last night because when I finally did I realized that I had figured the time we had to leave incorrectly and that we would be late if we did not leave sooner. I am thankful that Joe is the Young Men's President down there and that he is faithful. I am thankful that Heavenly Father rescued me this morning at 5am when I awoke and had no idea what I was going to do for seminary. I am thankful for my last meeting (hopefully) with my breast cancer radiologist yesterday and that I only have two more treatments. I am thankful that the burns under my arm are healing nicely. I am thankful for so many things to thing about. My head is so full of thoughts that need further thinking. I am thankful for Tim Horton's donuts for breakfast. I am thankful that I hung towels out to dry yesterday and I am thankful for Eliza who brought them in because I was too tired. Now - I need to get on with my day! Have a good one!  I am also thankful that John challenged me to hand write a letter or note and mail it each day that the mail goes out in February and that I have just finished #7. It has been enjoyable so far.

Diane Allen Thanks Jackie for the inspiration you give out each day.



Thursday 09 Feb 2012 
It is Thursday and I am thankful that it is also the last day of my radiation treatments. Thankful. Thankful. Thankful. I am thankful for my husband who was able to pump up our flat tire this morning in order to get the girls to school on time. I am thankful for a little nap yesterday afternoon that sustained me until bedtime. I am thankful that I dug out my white thread and hat binding supplies (after the consolidation of the sewing room and the office- which at this point is several immense piles that haven't found a home) and I bound one hat. It sounds so pitiful - but I am celebrating baby steps. So, one hat bound - Hooray! One episode of Bones - enjoyed. I am also so thankful for a very interesting and moving interview listened to on the Mormon Channel as I drove yesterday. It helped to put my little trials in perspective. Card # 8 is in the mail today. Looks like another habit is forming. I'm thankful for good habits. I hope everyone has a great Tuesday.
  • Shari Herrick Hooray. ..last treatment! ..Happy for you Jackie. Baby steps to others can be big achievements to others. Stay strong. Prayers for you. Love, Shari
    Linda Smith I am thankful for you that you are done with them -I have followed you on facebook through them and am so happy for you that they are done. Now take time and get rested!!! Love you, Linda
    Joan Tourtelotte Good news!
    Jackie Governale Thanks everyone! I am home from my last treatment and I am pooped! I should be feeling better in a couple of weeks. Hooray!


Friday 10 Feb 2012 
I am thankful that the sun is shining in my eyes right now - I do need to get a longer curtain for the window though. I am thankful to come home yesterday and find fresh flowers and a carrot cake from my sister. Thank you Nita! I am thankful for another chapter in 'Gadiantons and the Silver Sword'. It is getting exciting! I was so looking forward to not leaving the house today as a celebration of no more daily trips to Lewiston, but I now have a doctor's appointment. Oh, well - I am thankful that it is right here in Norway. I am thankful that life seems a little brighter today, although it will take another 2-3 weeks for the fatigue to lessen and for my skin to heal. I am thankful for my husband who was willing to go to the basement late last night to get a gallon of vinegar - it seemed like a major trip to me. I am thankful for the sun on my face as I waited in the car while John was in Goodwill yesterday - it felt so warm and good. I am thankful for the delicious supper Eliza cooked last night; BBQ pork chops, mashed potato, and spinach. I am thankful that the whole family watched a movie last night (except me - I saw the beginning and the ending, but pretty much slept through the rest!). It was 'Cowboys and Aliens' and I am pretty sure that all I missed was a lot of shooting and fighting, so I am OK with that. I am thankful that it is Friday!   At the beginning of the 33 days of radiation, I was really discouraged wondering how I could possibly make that trip that many times. Every day was such a chore and the number didn't seem to be getting smaller very quickly. I guess I must have switched into the automatic mode or it became a habit - just a part of my routine. I got up, taught my class, worked, went to radiation, etc. Looking back, each day was still a chore, but i had a better attitude, and it went faster, and it is over.

 The radiation treatments are officially over (they blew bubbles to celebrate and it was hugs all around!). I came home to find flowers and a carrot cake from my sister….. and yes, I did cry a little.  I was told that it will take another 2-3 weeks for my skin to heal and for the fatigue to lessen. At this point I am just so thankful that I do not have to travel 45 minutes each way for those treatments each day!!! Yes!

Saturday 11 Feb 2012 
I woke up at 5:45 this morning and am thankful that I didn't have to get up. I am thankful for a good meeting with my oncologist yesterday. He gave me a prescription for hormone therapy but said to wait 2-3 weeks to start taking it so that I can recover from the fatigue I am feeling right now. The side effects of this medication are fatigue, hot flashes, and muscle and joint pain for at least the first 6-8 weeks. I am thankful for two episodes of 'Castle' and two chapters in 'Gadiantons and the Silver Sword'. John came home yesterday morning from errands and said that there was a pony on the porch. I am thankful that his pony (a cotton candy machine) arrived and we had fun trying it out. I am thankful that our tire that was flat the other day was just a nail and could be repaired for only $10. I am thankful that it is Saturday and that there is a WorldWide Leadership Training to attend later and that it is just at the chapel in Oxford. I am thankful to be able to attend Windham's ward conference tomorrow. I am thankful for Dante-isms. The other night when we were watching Cowboys and Aliens and the wrist band lit up and started working, Dante said, "How futuristic!"

Sunday 12 Feb 2012 
I am thankful for amazing spaghetti and meatballs cooked by my husband for lunch yesterday (on a Saturday!!). I am thankful for a phone call from a good friend. I am thankful for an episode of 'Murder, She Wrote' and 'Castle'. I am thankful for seven hours worked and a good night's sleep and for an agitation in my spirit that hopefully will motivate me to get more organized and start doing a little more each day of the really important things in my life. I am thankful for hope and the ability that each one of us has to change. 

Danny Lynn O'Hern
I am grateful you write so well. I am posting this at 230am because, while house sitting for our two young married children, I have been kept awake by a raccoon that got into the attic around 1130pm last night. By the sounds it makes while scrambling about , it must be rather large. I have been harassing it, by turns, making my best imitation of an angry Rottweiler, and pounding the walls in a rhythm borrowed from the movie "Lord of the Rings" (while in the dwarfish mountain - before the orc army attacked). In the morning I intend to call an expert in critter removal. Hope I don't meet it face-to-face.

Glimpses and Thankfuls 30 Jan -05 Feb 2012

Monday 30 Jan 2012 
It is Monday morning, again. The weeks are flying by. I am thankful for being able to attend church yesterday and to my husband for being willing to wait for one whole hour after for me to just chat with friends. I needed that. I am thankful that Mike and Eliza were called to be Family History Center workers and hope that they grow to love that calling I way I loved it. I am thankful that Eliza made spaghetti with meatballs and garlic bread and that it was hot and ready to eat when we got home. I am thankful that John and I read 7 chapters in the Book of Mormon yesterday and are now caught up. I am thankful that Rebekah came to seminary this morning and that we were able to learn about David being chosen to be the next king and about his fighting Goliath. I made a sling out of denim and ribbons and we tried it out with marshmallows. I am thankful that yesterday was a day of rest.


Tuesday 31 Jan 2012
I am thankful this day for the snow that is falling- it looks so pretty out the window. After teaching about the friendship of Johnathan and David in the Old Testament, I am reminded how thankful I am for good friends through the years who have strengthened and encouraged me and probably listened to an enormous amount of whining along the way. Thank you. I have learned so much from my friends and when I say 'I want to be like ......(insert name) - it is the highest compliment and means that I want to emulate one of more of your wonderful qualities. I am thankful that the wide radiation treatments are over and maybe my poor painful burned underarm can start healing. Today I start the first of 8 localized treatments to my lumpectomy scar. I am thankful for an uneventful day ahead of me -seminary, work, radiation, ? I am thankful for the FHE movie 'ET" that we all watched last night. It was fun and Kaleb and Dante had never seen it before. Time for work!
 
Sandy Cox Bailey Jackie, Precious Lady and dearest friend, I have never heard a whine or an unkind word come from you. You have always been a great example of kindness and integrity. I love you and your awesome family! Hugs!
 
 It is spitting snow right now; I believe it is just a shower. My husband’s birthday is Sunday and I got him a cotton candy machine. Crazy, huh? We watched an episode of ‘The Mentalist” where one of the grown-up characters who always wanted a pony as a child, got one for her birthday. I told my husband that his present was like a pony (what kid doesn’t want cotton candy??). This machine will make cotton candy out of a piece of hard candy – so I mentioned that I needed to stop at the Dollar Tree one day this week to get something for his pony. He is so baffled! What fun!

Wednesday 01 Feb 2012 
It is certainly not a beautiful day outside....but I hope it will be one inside. I am thankful that we got home yesterday before the roads were too horrible. I am thankful for my husband who worked until after midnight and was still up and in the driveway at 5am to try to make our driveway manageable for my seminary students. I am thankful that all three girls came today and for Heavenly Father who took my meager preparations and turned them into a pretty great lesson. I am thankful for mornings when I feel refreshed and capable of almost anything.

Yesterday was fairly routine – teach, work, travel, prepare. There will be no school for the rest of the week for my elementary school boys because of Parent-Teacher Conferences and a Teacher Workshop. I will love having some help with projects – but will not love the noisy house. Out of my easy chair and back into the office for a few days.


Thursday 02 Feb 2012
I am thankful that John and I tried to raise our children in a contention free home. It isn't always possible to do that, but overall I think that we did a pretty good job. Now, contention hurts my spirit and is very uncomfortable for me. It makes me want to bury my head and cry. I wonder how people manage to live in such conditions and be productive and happy. I am thankful that John and I are going to babysit the smallest grandkids for 10 days while Dave takes Sofie to Vienna for their 5th wedding anniversary. We will be driving to Detroit in about 6 weeks. Let's hope we are up to it. (The kids not the drive) :) I am thankful for an opportunity to teach the tragedy of King David today in seminary. A few minor bad decisions unrepented escalated into tragic eternal consequences. I hope to remember that and be influenced to try to always do the right thing, no matter how small it seems at the time. I am so tired, yet am thankful for the strong inner drive that makes giving up impossible. I am not sure where that comes from, I am thinking from a loving Heavenly Father, but I am certainly thankful to have it as a part of my life.
 
Sandy Cox Bailey Amen and Praise God.
Carole Bleau Knowles Keep going Jackie. You light up my days.
 
Well, the sun is not shining in my neck of the woods this morning for that old groundhog. I was able to read a couple more chapters in the “Tennis Shoes” book last night. How I love a captive audience! 

Friday 03 Feb 2012 
It is Friday morning and there is no school today, so no seminary, so I am thankful that I can start work a couple of hours early. I am behind in my hours this pay period - maybe I can catch up. I am thankful that I left a little early and stopped at Dollar Tree to shop on my way to the treatment yesterday as I got out about 20 minutes later than usual and was 15 minutes late for a work meeting. I am thankful for another two chapters in 'Tennis Shoes" and that Kaleb was interested in Hagoth so we went to the Book of Mormon and read about him. I am thankful for my Uncle Richard who wrote me a letter! - a very nice treat in this electronic age. I am thankful that I was able to listen to almost all of a conversation on the Mormon Channel with Sylvia Allred and her husband Jeffrey. What an interesting life they have led. I am thankful for the hope that at some point today I can take a break from work and get my grandsons down in the basement and move some things around in the food storage room. I am thankful for all the people who like or comment on this post. You have no idea how uplifting that is to me, or how surprised I am each day. Sometimes when I get to feeling a little down during the day - I flip over to Facebook and scroll down and smile. Thank you.
  • Carrie Huggins Sowders I am thankful that you accepted my friend request and that maybe one day we can chat and get to know each other a little more
    Judith De Mille I read your postings every day. I'm always reminded of all the blessings in my life and how grateful I am...and how grateful I am to know such good people (like you)!
    Kathy Moody Life IS Good and gratitude makes it even better.. thanks for your loving words of gratitude...
    Linda Young I am thankful for your daily words of gratitude!!!! It helps me look at my blessings. Love you, Jackie!!!
    Quin Stringham Thanks for sharing Jackie! I always love reading what you have to say! I love you! You are in our prayers daily in this house!
No early morning class today as there is no school. The early morning sky is so beautiful! Streaks of light with a few dark clouds and the dark silhouettes of the trees. Lovely. I am down to just 5 treatments, and yes, I am counting. I am trying to decide what I will do to celebrate. Teaching my class, my thankful post on Facebook, work, treatment, an episode of ‘Bones’, a couple of chapters in ‘Tennis Shoes’, a two hour meeting as soon as I got back yesterday – that was my day. Hope yours is a good one today!

Saturday 04 Feb 2012 
I am up very early this morning. I love mornings when my energy level is at its highest and the house is very quiet. I am thankful for an unthought of answer to a dilemma yesterday. Another testament that Heavenly Father is on the job even when my brain is fuzzy. I am thankful that the entire family sat down and watched the movie 'Fireproof' last night. I enjoyed it and now have lots to think about. I am thankful for another two chapters in 'Tennis Shoes' - only three to go. I am thankful that John went to Lewiston with me yesterday - if was good to have some company on the ride. I am thankful for a big bottle of water right next to me - I plan to drink lots today. I am trying to be more thankful for all of my material possessions - I am richly blessed. I am thankful for my job and am going to start work right now!
 

Friday night is traditionally homemade pizza night and last night we also had breadsticks. Yum! Laundry, dishes, sorting the recycling, going to the dump, returning library books, mailing letters, going to the bank, my treatment, reading aloud, scriptures with my husband, WGU, paying the house payment – that was my day!
This is Super Bowl weekend. Go Patriots!

Sunday 05 Feb 2012 
Today is my husbands 63rd birthday. I am thankful for him this morning and also thankful that Joe and Dvorah and Danny are coming to help celebrate it this afternoon. We will also be celebrating Danny's 21st birthday from last Monday. We bought the domino game Chicken Foot to play today and Eliza will make cupcakes and we have ice cream, so I think we are all set. I am especially thankful that John and I have been married for 32 years - because when Danny was born John was in Saudi Arabia for Desert Storm. When we parted in October of 1990 and I came to live in Maine and he was deployed, I honestly thought that I would never see him again in this life. The four kids and I, plus unborn Danny, moved in with my parents and I was trying hard to be a good mom. The night Danny was born I contacted the Red Cross to ask them to get a message to John that he was a new dad of an adorable and healthy baby boy. He got the message 6 days later on his birthday. And, because I am very blessed, he did come home again - we met in Winona, Minnesota (another wonderful story!) in May of that year and he was home to stay in December.
  • Thai Anne Tell everyone I said happy bay. Wow I can't believe Danny is gonna b 21 lol I remember wen we were kids in church. And of course I've known me for ages now. It one of the few people that have known me pretty much my whole life love you guys
    ToniAnne Tillotson DeSantis Happy Birthday to the Birthday boy for me! Wow! Thanks for the guitar lessons, and friendship over the years! Hugs!
    Sofrona Zane Happy birthday, pop!!
    Carole Bleau Knowles Bonne fete John!
    Linda Young Hope you have had a wonderful birthday, John & Danny!!!!
    Quin Stringham I remember all that... so long ago! A happy birthday to John and to Danny! Sounds like you were having a fun get-together!
    Hannah Allen DeForest Happy Birthday, John!!!

18 February 2012

Glimpses and Thankfuls 23 -29 Jan 2012

Monday 23 Jan 2012 
This morning I was thinking about the things that I have to do today and one of them is to change the towels in the basement that are soaking up the water that is leaking from the crack in the furnace. I admit I was feeling a bit whiny about that - until I thought that I AM thankful that the furnace still works, and that it keeps us warm, and that I have a washing machine to spin the water out of the towels, a place to hang them to dry, and perhaps a chance in the next few months to replace the furnace. I am also thankful for an uplifting trip to Portland ward conference yesterday, for Eris' company, for the crackers and cheese she shared on the way home, for the apple I 'won' in Sunday school last week that was still in my bag to eat on the way home, for a chance to chat with Marvel and Judith, for safe travel, and for interesting insight into a familiar scripture story. I am thankful for the chance I had to relax the rest of the day, to read two more chapters in Tennis Shoes aloud to the grandsons, and for the three digital jigsaw puzzles I did online, and for the Seminary Centennial Broadcast, and a good night's sleep.

  • Kathy Hockman I am so appreciative of you still being my Visiting Teacher although I've not seen you in years. I will offer that checking on the towels is a good way to stay ahead of a possible worsening of the furnace problem. Better to face the devil you know, you know?
    Thanks and happy thoughts for you every day.

    Teri Bisbee Fleck There's always a positive side to everything! Love you, Jackie!
    Jackie Governale That is such a nice thing to say Kathy. I know I always enjoyed visiting with you. Our lives have changed so much since then - but I do enjoy keeping up with you on Facebook. It seems that my life is consumed with me and work and treatments and seminary. At least on Facebook I can pretend that I am involved in other people's lives. Oh well, maybe in another month when these daily treatments are over....who knows what wonderful things will be in store? :)
    Carole Bleau Knowles There you go.
Tuesday 24 Jan 2012 
Again, I am thankful to have arrived home yesterday before the icing started. Also, the big project that I was hoping to do when I got home was to organize the big freezer downstairs and when I got home it was already done! How cool is that! I am thankful to John, Eliza, and Mike for completing that project. I am thankful for Rebekah Marie Fleck and Courtney Mae Fleck for coming to seminary this morning so that we could read about the calling of Samuel to be a prophet and discuss how we can seek for and recognize the voice of the Lord in our own lives. I am thankful to have watched a very sad episode of "Bones" last night that caused me to reflect about what is important in my life and what I need to change so that my actions align with my priorities. It made me so thankful to have made it a priority to have children - my life now is so very rich because of them and their spouses and children. I am looking forward to this day as I do every day. It is a game - once I teach seminary, work, and have my treatment - what else will I do or experience? Can't wait to find out! 
 This is an odd winter so far in the Northeast. Freezing rain, sleet, rain, snow. Today will be in the 40s. Right now the roads are horrible. I am hoping for better this afternoon when I have to go out.

Wednesday 25 Jan 2012 
The sun is shining, it is amazing how uplifting light can be. I am thankful for the Mormon Channel. I usually download several programs so that I will have something to listen to when I drive. Yesterday I listened to the Relief Society program on the Visiting Teaching message for January. Very inspiring! On the way home I listened to an episode of The Weekly Edition. There was an interview with a women from South Africa who is a pro golfer and then with a women who was called to work in the Young Women's program when she was in her 80s. Finally, an interview with the head chef and the head baker for The Lion's House Restaurant. They baked 8000 dozen Lion House Rolls for Thanksgiving week this past year. Isn't that amazing?
 Today is my father's birthday. He would have been 83 years old. I have many fond and funny memories of life with him. I am pretty sure that he is not resting today - but do hope he is peaceful. I miss you and love you, Daddy!
  • Teri Bisbee Fleck I love watching Music and the Spoken Word when I get a chance. It helps me to relax. Thank goodness for BYU TV! How can any day be bad when you watch that, or when the sun shines down upon us? Have a great day, Jackie! :)
    Sofrona Zane Mom-- I find myself waking up every morning thinking what I'm grateful for. Thank you for a great example!
    Jackie Governale You are such an inspiration to me Sofie. To think that I may had even the tiniest influence on the fine person you have become is a very cool and uplifting thought.
    Jackie Governale Teri, hope your girls get feeling better and you also have a great day!
    Sofrona Zane You have a lot more influence than you think!
    Jackie Governale Evidently so do you - because you just did it again. I love you!
        
    Yesterday was sunny and in the 40’s and it seemed good to be warm. My daughter cooked cheeseburgers and French fries for supper and it was so good. I dozed in the evening after reading several chapters in the Old Testament in preparation for my early morning class. I helped my grandson type an essay for school about the ancient Greeks and Romans. He dictated and I typed. It was a good solution to an assignment that had dragged on for too many days.  
    Thursday 26 Jan 2012
 I am thankful that I was able to manage to evaluate 9 tasks yesterday for WGU- as we are pretty slammed right now. I am thankful to have read another two chapters in the Tennis Shoes book to Caleb and Kaleb. We are in the city of Zarahemla at the time of Captain Moroni. Amalakiah and his army of Lamanites are marching to the city of Moroni. There is talk of the children of the Ammonites joining the army. (The Stripling Warriors) There are pretty exciting times coming! I am also thankful that my son Mike called last night. I love to talk with him. He is going on a field exercise for a couple of days and then will be spending a month at Ft Gordon in Georgia. He has some friends there and I hope they will be able to see each other. I am thankful for an uplifting phone call from Patti Caton, friendships are so important and healing. I am thankful for the energy that I pulled from some unknown place to do up all the dishes and clean the counters last night as it is so wonderful to start the day off with a clean kitchen. I am thankful that John and I read from the Book of Mormon, and for the choice I made to not come home from treatment and sit in my chair but to sit at the table and laminate some cards for seminary and cut them out. I resisted my chair until almost 6pm and then I am thankful for how wonderfully comfortable it was. It was like sinking into the most amazing luxury - my chair, my blankie.....! My chair is even now calling my name and I am thankful that I can bring my work laptop out from my office and work there today. I am thankful for the sun that is now peeking up over the trees. I am thankful that it is Thursday and feel that I can tolerate two more treatments this week - then a blessed two days off!

The roads were clear and dry yesterday, just the way I like them. I had a productive life after WGU and radiation yesterday, just the way I like it. I did laundry and cleaned up the kitchen after supper. I did some small projects, read to the grandsons, read scriptures with my husband, and talked to my son and a friend on the phone. I must admit that the easy chair and sleep were most welcome!

Friday 27 Jan 2012
School is canceled and I am such a kid! I am thankful for the break in routine, even though no school is bittersweet when you work at home at a job that needs a quiet house and 3 grandsons live with you! I am thankful that today is payday and also thankful for the challenge of trying to figure out how to make the money do everything it is suppose to. I got $190 for Christmas, for which I am thankful, and I am thankful to have just spent $25 of it on a machine quilting class and thankful that the class was reduced from $59 dollars- which, by the way, I never would have paid for a class. I am thankful that Danny is safely in Westbrook with Joe and Dvorah, although I do wish he had thought to tell us about it. :) Sometimes I think very hard in the morning about what I am truly thankful for because I want to be honest, and sometimes I despair because it seems that I lead a very uneventful life. This morning I realize that I am thankful to lead a very uneventful life. It is free from drama, well-almost, and I like it that way. I am thankful that we read scriptures last night and that I had a captive audience for the next two chapters in 'Tennis Shoes'.
I am thankful for homemade chop suey and broccoli for supper and thankful that I took the time to make a bag of carrots into carrot sticks because I left it on the table at suppertime and the boys ate the whole thing! Amazing! I wish I had found the energy to clean up after supper last night but I didn't and I am thankful that the world continued, nobody is mad at me or called me names or beat on me - and I am thankful that I can do it this morning. I am thankful every time the car starts - I don't really hold my breath but I do say a little prayer of thanks after. I am also thankful every time I unlock it and the alarm doesn't go off and freeze it so it won't start. I hope we can nurse another year out of it, at which point we might be able to get a better car that we can drive to the Boston temple in - that would be such a blessing. I hope that everyone has a wonderful day!


Melanie Barrett Crawford I inspired by your daily gratitude. Thank you :) 
Jackie Governale Thank you, Melanie. I am just trying to get through each day as positively as I can - and you notice that I only post in the mornings! :)

We are having a snow/ice day today with no school. My grandkids will love that but I will probably have to lock myself in my office to be able to concentrate. Yesterday was pretty routine and that is OK. I am not into drama very much these days. At the end of the day I love a good meal, a comfortable chair, and a blanket. I also love reading aloud to my grandsons – they were riveted to the two chapters I read last night. Very gratifying.
Saturday 28 Jan 2012 
Last night was the second night in a row that I fell asleep right after supper and slept for a couple hours. I must have been tired. I am thankful that I can do that. I am thankful for this quote that someone posted by President Thomas S. Monson, "Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says, “I’ll try again tomorrow.” Isn't that a wonderfully hopeful message- that even when you are totally discouraged or have totally failed- you can show courage by just being determined to try again the next day? I love it! I am thankful that John went with me to my treatment yesterday and that once we got out of Norway the roads were clear. I am thankful to now be down to single digits - only 9 to go. I am thankful that we stopped at WalMart on the way home and once I tore the shopping list in two and gave the biggest part to John - that I was able to get the rest. I am thankful that they had one tube of the ointment left that I needed for my burns. I am thankful that Eliza cooked supper last night and that after I awoke from my nap she and Mike were willing to watch an episode of "Bones" with me. I am thankful for the clarity of thought that I experienced when I was up at 1:30 (because I had napped in the evening) and that I was motivated to get some plans for the year on paper. I am thankful to have paid Time Warner so that we will not lose our internet and to have had enough money on my Christmas gift card to order John and Danny's birthday presents and that Amazon thinks they will arrive before the 5th. I am thankful that I DO NOT HAVE TO GO ANYWHERE TODAY!!!

Yesterday was another very tiring day for me and I took another nap right after supper. I am down to single digits with my treatments- only 9 to go. Ah, how I long for the good old days when I could work past noon and still have some life in me to do other things. Sigh.

Sunday 29 Jan 2012 
I am thankful for a pretty amazingly productive (for me) day yesterday. I worked for 5 1/2 hours, did the laundry routine which includes changing the wet towels from the leaking furnace, cleaned out and organized the living room closet and the piles of things in front of it, loaded and ran the dishwasher twice, cleared a path to our closet and bureaus in our bedroom and put away all of our clothes. I am thankful for Kaleb and Eliza who helped with the closet project. I am so thankful for the feeling of accomplishment. I am thankful that we went to Juli's house and had tacos with her and her husband, George and Linda, and Linda's mother and friend Maxine. The tacos were delicious and it was wonderful to spend some time with friends. We played a dominoes game called Chicken Foot that was really fun. We read two chapters in the Book of Mormon and finished 1st Nephi for which I am grateful. I am thankful that watched an episode of 'The Mentalist' when we got home. I am thankful for the Emergency Essential order that was waiting for us on the porch and for the people who were willing to order so that I could get some freeze dried sweet potato dices. I am thankful to be alive and to have family and friends who love and support me and to my Heavenly Father for giving me some responsibilities and a pretty amazing desire to do a variety of things so that I do not sit around and be bored. And I am thankful that it is Sunday and I get to go to church and play the organ and when I come home I do not have to work for WGU but can choose from a myriad of possibilities: seminary, family history, indexing, organizing photos, planning, reading the Ensign, working on Relief Society, talking to my Mom, reading aloud from 'Tennis Shoes' and 'The Undaunted', and maybe skyping with my smallest grandchildren. Hooray!

Glimpses and Thankfuls 16-22 Jan 2012

Monday 16 Jan 2012
I am thankful that today is a holiday and a break from the routine and also thankful for my first and only granddaughter Sarah who was born on this day four years ago. I am thankful for her parents, Sofie and Dave, who are doing such a good job raising her in the gospel. I am thankful that I was able to play the organ yesterday and for two wonderful sacrament talks. I am thankful for such a good Bishop and for his good counselors. I am thankful that John enjoyed his first day of teaching the 8-11 year old boys in Primary and for the tasty spaghetti he fixed for lunch. I am thankful for a long session with our 'Ugly Monster Budget' and the progress made in taming the medical bills - at least on paper. I am thankful for the blondies with chocolate chips that I made yesterday and the strawberries that are sitting in the refrigerator waiting for breakfast. I am thankful that I do not live in Mongolia where the average winter temperature is 40 degrees below zero.
 This was a good weekend. I always appreciate it when I can accomplish something outside of the normal routine.  All grandchildren were with their other parents so the house was quiet. Today is my only granddaughter’s 4th birthday. I wish I could be there to celebrate it with her. Maybe Skype will be satisfying.

Tuesday 17 Jan 2012
It is snowing a little right now and supposed to get slippery later on. I am thankful for my husband who was outside a little after 5AM making sure the car started and sanding the driveway and also thankful that he drove the girls to school. I am thankful for homemade waffles in the freezer and again for my husband who just offered to fix me oatmeal for breakfast. I am thankful that John figured out why the car wouldn't start yesterday and fixed it. I am thankful that I made the effort to straighten the living room last night and that I took the time to practiced the piano a little.
Monday was another quiet day around my house and I did accomplish quite a bit. For lunch we had cheeseburgers made from venison ground up with bacon. It was pretty delicious! Thanks to my sister for that. Already my husband had fed me oatmeal and toast with strawberry jam for breakfast, my morning class went well,  my thankful post on Facebook is finished, and I am working. A good start to the day!

Wednesday 18 Jan 2012
I am thankful to be warm today and to have arrived home yesterday before 'the icing'. It just started to rain when I reached Welchville. I am thankful that today is 'hump day' - this will be my 17th treatment with 16 more to go. I am thankful for the hope that the gospel of Jesus Christ brings into my life. I can usually muster hope for a brighter future no matter how bad things might look. I am thankful that Emily just arrived for seminary. Hooray!
    • Shari Herrick I pray and think of you every day Jackie.
    • Jackie Governale Shari, that is so sweet. I wish I knew you better - you seem to be so hard working and so strong through trials. I really admire you as I read your posts on Facebook. You are inspiring to me.
    • Shari Herrick That is so nice of you Jackie...YOU are the one that is inspiring. All the hope and faith you have....I love reading your posts...:))
    • Patti Caton You are my shining example! So happy the Lord has blessed me with knowing you!

Hooray! I got to my treatment and back home yesterday before the roads started icing over. Hooray! This is my hump day – treatment #17, 16 to go! Hooray! My oldest son skyped in at 8 o’clock AM and we talked for an hour. Because Taskstream was down, I hadn’t started work yet and was available for his call. He brought me up to date on my youngest son’s antics (I mean plans) and asked me to help him with a youth activity on family history in February. I love family history so I am excited about that. Hooray! The sky is a beautiful shade of blue with fluffy white clouds and the sun is shining.

Thursday 19 Jan 2012
I am particularly thankful for the seminary lesson just taught - that of the importance of becoming a righteous mother and devoting your time and energy into raising responsible, kind, compassionate, and righteous children. I know I am thankful for the years that I chose motherhood over a job outside the home and although we struggled financially, I do not regret that decision for a moment. I hope that it truly made a difference in the lives of my children. They seem to be growing up to be pretty wonderful. I am thankful for the many books that I was able to read to them. I read the entire 'Harry Potter' series, as well as 'The Hobbit' and 'The Lord of the Rings', 'The Indian in the Cupboard' series and probably many more that I do not remember right now. I am thankful to be able to continue this tradition with my grandchildren. I have read 'The Hobbit' and all seven books of 'The Chronicles of Narnia' to Kaleb and am now starting on the 'Tennis Shoes Among the Nephites' series. I videotaped myself reading a dozen books aloud and John put it on DVD for a Christmas gift for Sofie's kids. There is nothing that gives me as much satisfaction as time spent with family.
    • Carrie Huggins Sowders From a current stay at home mom I couldn't agree more.
    • Jackie Governale Good for you, Carrie!
    • Juanita Johnson This is encouraging! Some of my absolute favorite moments are reading stories with my children. We are studying American History, and just finished "Across Five Aprils" and are now reading "Caddie Woodlawn" they all look forward to reading time!
    • Jackie Governale I even get to read aloud to my husband. I love to read aloud - it is probably as close as I will ever get to being on the stage. I read aloud a couple of the #1 Ladies Detective Agency books to him and we are now working our way through The Undaunted by Gerald Lund. Very good times!
    • Jackie Governale I remember reading aloud the Harry Potter series to my youngest son who is going to be 21 this month. None of the older brothers and sisters were interested, but as soon as I started they would come closer and closer until they were in the living room listening too. Some days I would read for 5 hours or more until I couldn't talk anymore as we tried to catch up on volumes 1-4. The thought of it still warms me!
    • Jackie Governale Simple pleasures!
    • Sandy Cox Bailey Precious memories.
    • Sofrona Zane Don't forget The Castle in the Attic and Narmia!
    • Jackie Governale Also, how many of the Tennis Shoes books did I read aloud to you kids?
 It is very cold this morning (-11 degrees) and I have moved my ‘office’ to a warmer part of the house, that is I am sitting in my comfortable chair covered in a blanket with my laptop on my lap. The sun is shining, that is a good thing. We are suppose to get some snow tonight and I am OK with that.

Friday 20 Jan 2012
It is very early on Friday morning and John is out shoveling and trying to get our driveway manageable. There is ice under the snow and it will be hard to navigate. I am thankful to him for taking such good care of it for us. I did not want to go out last night, but I am thankful that I did. I went to cardmaking class at Nancy's house. I was hoping that Rhoby would come so that we could catch up a little, but she didn't. I really had a good time with Nancy though. The cards were beautiful, but the friendship and chatting were even more important to me. She is a good friend and I am thankful for her and always feel uplifted when I am around her. I am thankful to have arrived home before the roads got slippery. I am thankful that John has had success with his home recording studio that he is setting up and thankful for the last installment of the ten commandments set to music. I am thankful that I took the time to sew a button on my winter coat yesterday - that made a very big difference in how warm I felt! It was a big return for such little effort.
  • Jacqueline Wittwer I love you!
  • Jackie Governale I love you too! Wish we lived closer so you could motivate me to sew up all of my fabric into wonderful things. I want to use it all up.
  • Jackie Governale I am thinking of curtains with ruffles for my living room - wonder if I have some fabric for that project already.
  • Jacqueline Wittwer Sounds so fun. Send me a picture when you get them done (how' that for motivation?)
  • Jackie Governale That might possible work. Maybe patchwork?
 We had about three inches of light and fluffy snow overnight but not enough to get a day off from school or even a delayed start. I went to my card making class last night and made three beautiful cards and had a restful chat with a very good friend. I felt very tired after my treatment yesterday and right up until bedtime. I even started the deep yawning on the drive home – I knew that wasn’t a good sign. But it is morning, the sun is trying to shine, and I say, ‘Let’s do it!”
Saturday 21 Jan 2012
This morning i am thankful that Eliza is OK. There were a couple of hours last night when I experienced a great deal of stress, worry, and fright, thinking that something horrible had happened to her - but then she walked in the door. Her phone had died and she was fine. I am thankful for that great blessing. I am thankful for two days without treatment - this seemed to be a long and tiring week and I am hoping to recover today and tomorrow. I am thankful for homemade pizza for supper - it is always so satisfying. I am thankful to have made it up the driveway yesterday. I am thankful to have shopped at Hannaford on the way home. I came out saying, "I am a winner!" over and over because I have shopped twice this week and went out one night to card making. Yea, me! I am thankful and looking forward to a few hours today to do something other than work, get treated, recover from getting treated, and prepare and teach seminary, which are the things that consume my life these days. I wonder which project will climb to the top of the list? Ooooh! I feel the excitement rising! Work first my heart!
  • Shari Herrick Jackie, I notice the little things that are so important after reading your posts....Keep up the faith and hope...and the posts. I love reading them!
  • Cammi Barrick Hey Sister Governale!!! I often think about you and your family. I hope you are doing ok. It would be nice for all of us to get together some day soon. Thank you for the birthday wishes.
  • Jackie Governale Cammi, those certainly were the 'good old days'. We should plan a reunion at your mom's house sometime as Sofie is in Detroit, Mike is in Kentucky, Danny is in PA and the rest of us are in Maine. That would be so much fun. How are you and what are you doing these days?
  • Cammi Barrick That would be so much fun. My husband and i live in slc. He is going to school and i was working in accounts receivable.

Friday was a very tired day for me, but I did manage to work, get treated, shop on the way home, make homemade pizza for supper, and stay awake through an episode of Lie To Me! I listened to a very interesting radio show on the way home yesterday about archeology with three guest speakers who were archeologists who worked in three different parts of the world – North America (mostly southern Utah), England, and the Near East. In my younger days I felt drawn to this field of study. It still fascinates me. 

Sunday 22 Jan 2012
This Sunday morning I am thankful for a chance to go to Portland to their ward conference and to Eris who will keep me company on the ride down and back. I am thankful for the Stake RS Presidency meeting that I will attend after and the chance to be with Linda and Cheryl again - It has been a long month since we have seen each other. I am thankful for the long chat with Linda Smith on the phone yesterday that reminded me how much I love her. I am thankful to have had life after WGU yesterday- I was able to do several loads of laundry including the boys' winter coats which were getting pretty grungy. I cleaned out the fridge and loaded and ran the dishwasher and folded and put away four loads of clothes. It never sounds like very much when I put it on paper, but I am thankful that I feel like I accomplished something. I am thankful to have read aloud another chapter of 'Tennis Shoes Among the Nephite" to Caleb and Kaleb. We stopped at a cliffhanger- Jim and Garth are going to be sacrificed in the morning. :( I am thankful for the digital jigsaw puzzles of family photos that John gave me for Christmas. I put one together last night and it was just what I needed- so relaxing. I am thankful for this time of morning when the house is so quiet and the sky is just beginning to get light and the trees are dark silhouettes. Very pretty. I have always said that when I get to heaven I want to major in clouds - but skies and flowers are right up there too! I am thankful for a strong commitment to living the gospel of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I can't imagine my life without it.